The Why and How of Getting Super-Specific About Feelings

When we start using EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), the healing process to start living our dream life, there are some things we need to do.

One of those, and probably the most important, is to get clear on how we feel. If we don’t have the life we want, something is blocking us from getting it.

Okay. I know what you’re thinking…  Must we dredge up all of those feelings again? Those negative feelings I don’t want to talk about? Yes, we must.

But isn’t it better to bury them and ignore their existence, you ask. The answer: No.

And here’s why:
We must know the root cause of a particular issue in order to tap it away. The more specific we can get, the better off we’ll be.

I know we all like to bury our demons, but the truth of the matter is, they’ll keep popping up in some form or another if we don’t deal with them. When we tap them away, we take away their power over us.

But what about traumatic events? The ones we absolutely without a shadow of a doubt want to forget?

I know how revisiting past events can set a person on edge or get them to shut down again. I understand. But those events affect so many areas of our lives. And I honestly don’t believe we can repress them without experiencing a ripple effect. Even with traumatic events buried deep inside our subconscious mind, the subconscious mind still knows them and will alter how we react to relevant situations based on those buried experiences.

These events must be tackled if we wish to see dramatic positive change in our lives.

So, how do we get super-specific about our feelings?

Be openminded and willing.

The most important step in this whole healing process is to be openminded and willing to accept positive change into our lives. The road ahead can get better, so much better, but we need to start out with some basics. These basics are like shoes for running. They don’t have to be the best shoes. Any old shoe is better than none. You can still have doubts–that’s normal–but keep reminding yourself of the healing aspect of EFT.

Be honest.

Have you ever noticed how we get into the habit of saying we’re fine when we’re not? It’s just easier to sugarcoat how we feel so we don’t have to explain it to someone else. Well, with this step, we *do* want to explain it. We want to spill the beans, at least to ourselves. How do you really feel? And if you could voice your opinion without any kind of repercussions, what would you say?

Take notes and write in a journal to self-reflect.

As you become open and honest, take notes of how you feel. Write in a journal and brainstorm all of the things that are bugging you and try to figure out the root cause for each issue. You don’t have to have all the answers right away. Some will come to you later.

Tap to gain clarity.

Tapping is a great tool to use while you take notes. It can help you see connections and possible root causes.

If this process is an emotional one for you, that’s a good sign that you are on the right track. Keep taking notes. Keep tapping. Keep getting clear about how you feel and what might be causing these feelings. It’s okay if you don’t know how you feel right away.

Once you’ve taken these steps, I want you to tap on them. You can incorporate statements like these:

• Even though I feel [insert feeling + the cause, if you know it], I choose to love, forgive, and accept myself anyway.
• Even though I don’t really know how I feel, I trust that it will come to me.

I know this process can be a hard one, so I want to give you a guided tapping session to help you release some of the things that popped up and so you can also feel good about taking these important first steps.

To check out the video on YouTube, go here – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yv4t7FvEymc or click on the image below.

Your next step is simply to follow along to the video. I will see you there!

If you are new to EFT/Tapping, this video will also walk you through the steps of tapping on the acupressure points.